If you want to see the world in your own eye…
Rule 1 : Stand up straight with your should back
Animal who must cohabit with others in the same territories have in sequences learned many tricks to establish dominance. While risking least amount of possible damage.
When something evolve, it must build upon what nature has already produced.
Low serotonin means decreased confidence, more response to stress and prepare for emergency.
Routine is so necessary in the act of life, things repeated to be automated and they must be turned into stable and reliable habits.
Anxiety and depression can be treated if the person has unpredictable daily routine. Our anxiety system are practical, they assume that anything you ran away is dangerous. The proof of that is of course, the fact that you ran away. Anxiety induced retreat make everything restricted from anxiety inducing. People are bullied because they don’t fight back. When skillfully integrated, ability to respond with aggressive / violence decrease rather than increase the probability that actual aggression.
Rule 2 : Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
People are better at filling and properly administrative prescription meditation to their pets that themselves.
We eternally inhabit order, surround by chaos, we eternally occupy known territory, surrounded by unknown. Have one foot firmly planted in order / security, and the other in chaos, its possibility, growth and adventure.
Women has been making men self conscious since Eve, primary by rejecting them. If men do not take responsibility since women bear the primary burden of reproduction.
You know so much about yourself, you are bad enough. But only you know the full range of your secret transgression, insufficiency. No one is more familiar than you with your all your mind and body is flawed.
You are simply not your own procession to torture and mistreat , because your being is tied with others. We are low resolution of god. We can make order from chaos and vice versa – in our way. You need to consider the future and think what might my life look like if i were caring myself properly.
Rule 3: Make friends with people who want the best for you
Not everybody falling is a victim, and not everyone want to rise. People often amplify and accept their own suffering.
Victory is easy, failure is easy too. Its easier not to shoulder a burden. Its easier not to think and not do , and not to care. Its easier to put off tomorrow until what need to be done today. And drawn upon upcoming months, years in today cheap pleasure.
In failure, you merely have to cultivate a few bad habit. You just have to bide your time.
The desire to improve is the per-condition of progress
Rule 4: Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
NO matter how good you are at something, or how you rank your accomplishment, there is someone out there make you look incompetence.
Failure is the price we pay for standard because mediocre has consequence both real and harsh, standard are necessary.
Meaning itself require the difference between better and worse. Winning at everything means you didn’t do anything new and difficult. You might be winning but not growing, it might be most important form of winning.
How can we improve ?
1. Take stock, who are you ?
The past is fixed but future can be better. Prepares happiness is always be found in the uphill journey, and not in the fleeting sense of satisfaction awaiting at next peak.
Your eyes are tools, Those are there to help you to get what you want. The price you pay for that utility, the specific focused direction , is blindness to everything else.
Life doesn’t have a problem, you do.
You cannot. aim yourself at anything if you are completely undisciplined and untutored.
Remember you are not totalitarian , or a utopian , even to yourself, being a totalitarian.
Rule 5: Don not let your children do anything that make you dislike them
Throughout parents would not let someone they truly cared for become the object of a crowd’s contempt.
Its the thing that occur everyday truly make up our lives and time spent the same way over and over again add up alarming rate.
Chimpanzee conduct inter-tribal warfare, with almost unimaginable brutally. Children must more likely to astray if they are not trained, disciplined and encouraged. Children must be shape and informed, or they cannot thrive.
Children are damaged when those change with care, afraid of any conflict or upset, no longer dare to correct them.
Modern parents are paralyzed by fear that they will no longer be loved by their children. Parents need to tolerate the momentary anger / hatred toward them after necessary corrective action has been taken.
Violence after all, is no mystery. Its peace that is difficult .
Infants are like blind people searching for a wall. Pain is more potent than pleasure and anxiety was than hope.
Not to shelter your children completely from misadventure / failure, so they never experience fear and pain, but maximize their learning so useful knowledge maybe gained with minimal cost.
You can discipline your children, or you can turn the responsibility over to the harsh uncaring judgemental world.
Parents must reward those attitudes and action that will bring their child success in the world outside the family, use punishment / threat to eliminate behavior that will lead to misery and failure.
If a child has not been taught to behave by age of 4. It will forever to be difficult him/her to make friends
General principles of discipline :
- Limit the rules
- Use the least force necessary to enforce those rules
- Parents should come in pairs
- Parents should understand their own capacity to be harsh / vengeful / arrogant and resentful
- Parents have a duty to act as precises for the real world
Rule 6 : Set your house in prefect order before you criticize the world
People who experience evil may desire to perpetuate it, to pay it forward. While its also possible to learn good by experiencing evil.
A hurricane is an act of God. But failure to prepare, when the necessity for preparation is well known, that’s sin.
Every person is too complex to know themselves completely , and we all contain wisdom that we cannot comprehend.
Life is short, you cannot learn everything by yourself, get the lesson from history !
Rule 7 : Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient )
That something better might be attained in the future by giving up something of value in the present.
There is little difference between sacrifice and work. We begin to realize that reality was structured as if it could be bargained with.
Its better to share something you have, to become widely known as generous.
The success among us delay gratification. The successful among us bargain with future.
Good demand not only sacrifice, but of precisely what is loved most. No tree can grow to heaven, unless its root reach down to hell.
Bread is little use of man who has betrayed his soul, even if he is currently strawing
Refuse to dispense with his responsibility for the events of our life.
Rejection of immediate gratification of nature and person desire. AN idea has an aim, it want something. It posit a value structure. An idea is a personality, not a fact. When it manifest itself within a person, it make that person become its aviator.
Aim up, pay attention, fix what you can fix. Don’t be arrogant in your knowledge.
To the best of my ability i will act in a manner that lead to alleviation of unnecessary pain and suffering.
Meaning is something come upon you, of its own accord. You can set up the per-condition, you can follow meaning, when it manifest itself.
Do what is meaningful, not what expedient
Rule 8 : Tell the truth, or at least, don’t lie
What should you do , when you don’t know what to do ? Tell the truth
Paranoid patient have extraordinary attending no non-verbal clues.
Taking the easy way out or telling the truth – those are not merely 2 different choices. They are different pathway thru life. They are utterly different way of existing.
Someone living a life-lie is attempting to manipulate reality with perception, through and action, so that only normal desired and per-defined outcome is allowed to exist. A life live in this manner is base on 2 premises:
1. Current knowledge is sufficient to define whats good
2. Reality would be unbearable if left to its own device.
A sin of commission occur when you do something you know is wrong. A sin of omission occur when you let something bad happen when you could do something to stop it.
If you betray yourself, if you say untrue things, if you act out a lie, you weaken your character.
Reason fall in love with itself and with its own production. If elevate them and worship them as absolute.
What save you is the willingness to learn from what you don’t know. Stubborn refusal to change in the face of error not only meant rejection from heaven, and subsequent degeneration into an ever deepening hell, but rejection or redemption itself.
Status you can lose. You carry character with your whatever you go. And it allow you to prevail against adversity.
Hell come when lies have destroyed the relationship between individual and reality itself. Thing fall apart, Life degenerate. Everything become frustration and disappointment.
Truth will not come in the guise of opinion showed by others. as the truth is neither of slogan nor ideology. It will instead by personal. Your truth is something only you can tell, based as it is unique circumstances of your life.
Rule 9 : Assume that the person you listening to might know something you don’t
When people think, stimulate the world and plan how to act on it.
To think, you have to be at least 2 people at the same time, then you let those people disagree.
True thinking is complex and demanding. It require you to be articulate speaker and careful, judicious listeners. It involve conflict, so you have to tolerate conflict.
Summarize what people have said to you, and ask them if i understand properly.
Truth and human are often close allies, that combination work fine. Act as if you are listening to yourself during conversation, as you are listening to other person.
Rule 10 : Be precise in your speech
When we look at the world, we perceive only what is enough for our plans/ actions to work and for us to get by.
The past is not necessary what it was, even through it has already been, The present is chaotic and intermediate.
Living thins die, after all, without attention. Life is indistinguishable from effortful maintenance.
Clarity of through – courageous clarity of through is necessary. Precision may leave tragedy intact, but it chase away ghost and demons.
What is terrible in activity often pale in significance, compare to what is terrible in imagination.
You must determine where you have been in your life, so you know where you are now. If you don’t know where you are, precisely then you could be anywhere.
Rule 11: Don’t bother children when they are skateboarding
When without loads of negative experience and encouraged, we prefer to live on that edge. We can still be both confident in our experience and confronting the chaos the help us develop.
If you cannot understand why someone did something, look at the consequences and infer the motivations.
Children in father absent home is 4 times as likely to be poor. Any hierarchy creates winners and losers.
A complex, sophisticated culture allow many games and successful players, and that well structured culture allow the individual that compose it to play and to win, in many different fashions.
The most valid personality trait predicts of Long terms success in western countries are intelligence and conscientiousness.
Group identity can be frctionated right down to level of individual.
If they are healthy, women don’t want boys. They want men, they want someone to contend with, some to grapple with. IF they are tough, they want something tougher. If they are smart, they want someone smarter. They desire someone who bring to table something they cant provide.
Rule 12 : Pet a cat when you encounter one on street
If you are already everything, everywhere always, there are no where to go and nothing to be.
A superhero who can do anything turns out to be no hero at all. He is nothing specific, so he is nothing. He has nothing to strike against, so he cant be admirable.
Few words to conclude with :
ask our-self ” What have i done wrong, and what i can i do now to set things at least bit better ?”
Maybe the same thing as consulting your conscience, in some manner is the same as discussion with God.
Until next time
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